Welcome to the StoryTelling & Organizing Project

Here you will find audio clips and transcripts from some of STOP's stories. You will also find information about our project partners, discussion questions and resources for using STOP stories in your own work to intervene in interpersonal violence, as well as information on how to get involved in the project.

From the Challenging Male Supremacy Project…

From the Challenging Male Supremacy Project…

We are nearing the end of a nine-month program, working with other cisgender (i.e. non-trans) men to build transformative understandings of and responses to male supremacy.  As STOP Partners, we’ve been excited about integrating the audio stories into our curriculum; in a recent session focused on accountability, we played Maria’s Story as one example of working to secure accountability.  We focused specifically on holding and processing our emotional experiences of this and another (written) example of accountability.

One thing we found was that, by virtue of using an audio piece, we could read one another’s responses in real time as we listened to Maria’s experience.  In addition to the simultaneity of engaging an audio piece together, Maria’s Story also provided a way to ground ourselves in the difficult reality of intervention and accountability – in particular the complicated ways in which healing and resolution are and are not present at the end.

After engaging with those two examples of attempts of accountability, we also discussed other attempts that we or people we’ve spoken with had experienced.  This led into a conversation around visions of accountability, or what our ideal response to harm would include. Related to this, one of the interesting and challenging aspects of Maria’s Story is that the actions she takes are almost entirely individual – rather than collective – responses.  This is especially relevant to our work, given what we might call the “hero model” of accountability (often attached to masculinity); this involves taking action without being in conversation or collaboration with others.

Maria’s Story spoke strongly to our group, drawing out people’s perspectives based on their particular experiences (for example, two men in our group who strongly identified with her story as the parents of young daughters).  This audio piece makes room to discuss complicated issues while still holding the validity, strength and beauty of her response.